My daughter came to me recently, as we were getting ready to go out for the day, and asked if I had seen a particular jacket of hers. I answered with all the usual ‘mum’ answers that entailed “Have you checked in your room, under your bed, or, heaven forbid, actually in your cupboard?” The answer was a very firm ‘yes’ to all these questions. Now, I knew that I had seen her with the jacket not that long ago, so it had to be in the house somewhere. So, being a mum, I said what any mother would say “Well, go and check again. It has to be somewhere in there.” She huffed off amidst protestations that she had looked properly, and that she had looked everywhere. (Imagine whingey, whiney 7 year old voice).
She came back a few minutes later, again stating that she had looked everywhere and it was nowhere to be found. This happened a few more times and each time, I calmly (read: starting to get frustrated) repeated that she needed to look harder and I was sure she would find it. The continual popping in and out was also her trying to get me to stop what I was doing and come look for the jacket instead of her.
Guess what? She found it. Where? In her cupboard.
She looked a little sheepish when she emerged from her bedroom wearing the jacket, with eyes that implored me not to start in on one of my ‘soap-box diatribes’. I refrained (that’s why you are getting it here) and we merrily went on our way into the car and off on a lovely day.
It made me think though. How often do we look and look for an answer to a problem, stating that ‘it’s just not here’ when in fact, all we need to do is look a little harder. The truth of the matter with the jacket was that it was there all along, regardless of the fact that she couldn’t see it.
Sometimes we can search for the right answer to a situation, hunting high and low, seemingly to no avail. But if we keep looking long enough and hard enough, we find it. For most of life’s issues, there is a solution. And very often, it’s right there in front of us, whether we choose to see it or not. Sometimes, too, we get cross at others when the answer isn’t apparent and either take our anger out on them or expect them to come and find it for us, just like my daughter.
Not being able to see something eg an answer to a problem, does not automatically mean that there isn’t an answer. It just means that we need to keep looking.
Are you about to give up on something? Or do you simply need to keep on looking for a solution?
PS. Of course, there are also those situations in which you just need to find a different jacket and get on with the day 🙂