One of my favourite Winston Churchill quotes is: “You have enemies? Good. That means you actually stood up for something in your life.”
We all, if we are honest, have an innate desire to be liked. Most of us want to please others. And rightly so. It is good to want to see others happy and knowing we may have had a hand in that happiness is a wonderful thing.
When we pursue approval and pleasing others above all else, above doing what is right, or doing what is right for us, we run the risk of denying our own selves and that can lead to all sorts of interesting issues (just ask my psychologist friend!).
I don’t think Winston Churchill’s quote gives us licence to run rough-shod over other people’s feelings, opinions or beliefs. I think it more encourages us to stand up for what we believe in and if that makes us some enemies along the way, then so be it.
There are plenty of people out there who don’t like me (and not just because I have stood up for something…can you believe some people just don’t like me?! Shocking, isn’t it!) and I am okay with that. I didn’t used to be but life has an uncanny way of ensuring we have the right experiences to get us where we need to be.
I have been labelled as a stickler for the truth by some. I was particularly pleased with that one – if you are not going to like me because you view me as unwavering from the truth, then great! I would rather upset you than compromise my beliefs just to make you feel better about yourself.
So. Do you have enemies? When have you stood up for something even though the consequence was people not liking you?