There is a current trend in quotes, sayings and other ‘wise’ words. It goes along the lines of “surround yourself with positive, lovely people who are on your wavelength” and is often accompanied by an add-on that implies this will also assist the realisation of your dreams and help you be successful at whatever it is you are aiming for.
Now, I am all for positivity and loveliness in people. What I find difficult about this current trend is it is quite selfish. Basically, we are being told to only think of ourselves and what is best for us.
If someone doesn’t support your dream, stop talking to them. If someone disagrees with your choices, that’s it, cut them off. If someone generally finds it difficult to be positive, don’t hang around them anymore. Seems selfish to me.
Have we stopped to think about the ramifications of such segregation?
If those of us who are seeking a positive, dare I say, enlightened, way of life, consistently stick together and shun those who aren’t, aren’t we contradicting the very ethos we are purporting? If we only spread goodness, positivity and light to those who already have it, aren’t we just perpetuating the problem and in reality doing little that is of benefit?
How will those who struggle to see the good in life ever see it if we don’t interact with them on a regular basis?
If we really want to see change in our families, communities and society as a whole, we need to start spreading the goodness, not by cutting ourselves off from those who are on a different path but by walking alongside them.
If our positivity, wholesomeness and desire to do good cannot withstand being around people less positive than us, then what is it really worth? If our freedom to love and ‘be nice’ is threatened merely by being around someone who is negative or down, then maybe we need to take a look at how deep our positivity really is.
Now I am not saying we should make unwise choices in friendships etc and allow others to bring us down and hurt us. We should be careful about who we confide our deepest dreams to. We should seek out likeminded people for comfort and re-energising.
But. We shouldn’t hoard our positivity to ourselves and exclude those for whom being positive is more of a struggle.
How about we believe that positive can over-power negative, then trust that positivity and help bring others up, instead of being overly concerned that they will bring us down. We just might be surprised at the changes it brings.