Well, my husband and I survived our time apart – just. He has come back with some gems from all that time of reflection and contemplation, and although I haven’t checked, I’m sure he won’t mind me sharing one of them here 🙂
If you read this blog often, you’ll know that while I don’t always achieve it, I strive to live in a spirit of thankfulness. And true thankfulness and gratitude was a major theme for my husband last week, which has made me do a check on myself and see if my level of thankfulness is where it should be. It isn’t of course, so it’s been a great reminder.
I came across a quote today that said:
Fearing to lose what you have is not the same as appreciation. You have to take a step beyond that. ~ Terri Guillemets
It’s interesting isn’t it? We all fear losing people and things. We sometimes fear losing them so much that we grip them rather tightly and become so full of that fear of their loss that we choke out any thankfulness for the person or possession.
It’s easy to get them mixed up and equate our fear of loss with our level of appreciation and gratitude. But, as the quote says, there needs to be a step beyond that.
So how do we know if it’s fear of losing something or true appreciation?
I think the answer is in our response to the thought of it being lost. I think if we can let something or someone go and still be thankful that we had it or them, then we have been truly living in appreciation and gratitude.
Part of living immersed in a spirit of thankfulness is recognising we don’t deserve it. When we live in fear of losing something or someone, I wonder if it’s because deep down, we think it’s our right to have that thing or that person in our life.
If we can hold people and things loosely, with no sense of entitlement; if we can just dwell in that sense of appreciation and thankfulness; if we can simply allow the ebb and flow of life to give and take, as it does, maybe we will find that our spirits soar to the heavens in an unending stream of gratitude for the beauty, and the loss, that is allowed to colour our lives.
Maybe we will be released from the grip of fear and live inside the sweet peace that comes from a thankful heart.