I’m tired.

The post I had in mind for today (I know, I can’t quite believe I actually planned one ahead either!) was to do with marriage and making it work.

Throughout the course of the day, I’ve checked facebook. Because of the pages I’ve ‘liked’, the causes I’m associated with, and the calibre of friends I have, what I see on facebook is diverse. Cute kittens to human trafficking and everything in between fills my screen every time I log on.

Today, though, there seemed to be an abundance of posts about the state of our oceans and their inhabitants; graphic photos of the abuse, torture and murder of people in Egypt; the new scientific proof that pornography damages the brain; appeals for money for families affected by disease and/or trauma.

And now, instead of writing an upbeat encouraging post about relationships, I find myself feeling angry, irritated and sick to my stomach.

If you’ve read even a handful of previous posts, you’ll know that I take an interest in the bigger issues of life, have concerns for the many, many marginalised sections of the world and am not one for sticking my head in the sand.

But today, it’s all too much. Social media, for all it’s wonders that I love, has the dark side of giving us emotional overload. Compassion fatigue, I think it’s known as in psychology circles.

I’m tired of all the problems in the world. Tired of being asked to support so many worthwhile causes. Tired of feeling the ‘affluence’ of living in a first world country. Tired of feeling like I can’t do enough. Tired of the horror humans inflict on their fellow man and on animals. Tired of the relentless sexual objectification of women and girls. Tired of hearing about how we are raping the earth. Tired of hearing that climate change is going to kill us.

I am tired, not because I don’t care but because I do.

Anyone else ever feel the burden of knowing too much?

19 thoughts on “I’m tired.

  1. oh yes. today in fact. sorry to contribute to your fatigue. just here cooking dinner and worrying about plastic, and how pointless most of my little efforts feel toward ‘doing my bit’. has anyone got any suggestions for ‘caring too much fatigue’?


    • Oh please don’t apologise. I love it that I have friends who care about issues bigger than their own backyard. And I also love how we are all compelled to help a different cause.

      I guess the answer is that they aren’t pointless efforts. Seems a trite answer though doesn’t it?….


  2. I’m also troubled by the state of the human race – daily. But when you go back through history I’m not sure we’re getting worse – except for the planet thing. Anyway sometimes I think the only thing we can do is love our own kids. Teach them tolerance and respect. Change the world one kid at a time. Oh yeah and recycle.


    • Yep, you’re right. I suspect though, that the information age is a blessing and a curse. Way back when, they didn’t see it all constantly in their newsfeed or on the news, and maybe weren’t so compassion fatigued? Loving our kids is definitely a way to make a big difference. And for me, it’s keeping focussed on those kids that Destiny Rescue are bringing into safety, one kid at a time.


  3. The internet throws all this at you and more daily yet you can’t leave the causes for fear of missing something important. I’ve lessened my presence on Facebook because I find it draining but even if I sit down to watch a little TV I’m caught by constant adverts asking me for monetary help with Water-aid, sick and dying children, adopt an animal, getting rid of eye disease in India or something else. Each one tweaks my conscience a little more though I already have direct debits out for cancer charities. We do owe the world something but not an arm and a leg or our sanity. I wish there was a central charity that took our donations and they then made weekly contributions to whichever was the most pressing crisis of the day Internationally with a proportion going towards National issues like prevention of cruelty to children.
    There are enough International conferences to instigate an agreement that laws should be changed to protect women as well as protecting the planet. Those countries that decline to agree can be sanctioned until they comply. A woman’s advocate could be appointed to each country to encourage women to band together to promote their human rights. It always seems this is low on a list of International priorities.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx


    • Thanks David. What amazes me, I guess, is that anyone like me feels overwhelmed, bombarded and helpless, while others are totally oblivious to it all and just merrily go about their daily lives. There seems to be no middle ground.

      I love your idea of a central charity that distributes as is needed each day. It is fraught with problems though…the biggest being that humans would run it!

      I wonder, too, why women’s and children’s issues are still so low on the priority list for the governing bodies of countries.

      Thanks for your understanding of how I’m feeling xo


  4. Several years ago I spent a year as the unpaid executive director of a local chapter of a charity. In time the responsibilities wore me down. One night it occurred to me that my chapter couldn’t be the only one struggling with declining contributions, increasing bureaucracy, and increasing needs in the community. But I wasn’t losing sleep over those chapters, only my own. That’s when I realized I’d never be able to solve all the problems. All I could do is what I could do locally and not at the expense of my own health or mental health. I also realized I wasn’t the only person capable of working on those problems. So I did what I could, didn’t beat myself up for not doing more, and eventually walked away to do my part in other organizations where the stress was not so great.
    Keeping our concern in perspective is the hard part!


    • Yes, keeping it all in perspective is the trick! Thanks for sharing your experience Esther πŸ™‚ I’m not beating myself up that I can’t do more…it just makes me sad and weary that any of it needs to be done at all.


  5. I hear that! It is great to have found your blog. I’m always trying to send out some joy and comfort over at letyourselflearn.com so I hope you can get a little pick-me-up over there. And truly, thanks for caring, you are changing the world visibly or not!


  6. I’ve experienced that too many times myself… It seems like with all things, moderation is key. I can’t expend so much energy on ’causes’ that I am no good to myself or my family. I love the quote “I can’t do everything, but I can do something.” This helps me stay focused on how I’ve chosen to make a positive difference and not get distracted with bunny trails -even if they are important bunny trails.


    • Absolutely agree…we’re no good to our causes or anybody if we run ourselves ragged and end up in a heap. And you are right, doing something is definitely better than trying to do everything and ending up not doing anything at all.


  7. I can commiserate, Susannah. There is so much β€œbad” in the world. But if each of us does just one thing to help further healing or helping, then that’s what we should do. Imagine a world where EVERYONE helped in just one arena? We’d have a lot less problems and there would be less suffering. I support the military, helping my military family, promoting military help sites on occasion, donating when I can. Where I work, it’s with disabled adults. So I feel like I’m contributing there, though my contribution is small, it still counts. I have recently become involved, again, with the Deaf community. I’m hoping my contributions there might help and enhance a few lives. But, yes, it is tiring, when that’s all you see, post after post. You are doing wonderful things for your girls and for girls in other countries. Be proud of that. I’m proud of you!


    • Thanks Karen πŸ™‚

      I love the way you are such a ‘giver’ and always on the lookout for ways you can impact others. I also love that you make sure to take time out for looking after you and to spend time with your family. It’s all a balance, isn’t it? I know I need to take more care to ensure I have mental breaks. And the best way I know how to do that is to give it all over to God and not keep it all as a burden. This post has been a great way to recognise what I need to do. Thanks for being a part of it πŸ™‚


  8. George Orwell suggested that our world may be some other planet’s hell.

    I’m inclined to agree. I’ve seen a lot of the really bad stuff in person. See enough dead kids and your brain gets kind of different.

    The thing is, though, that we can’t turn away. The only way to heaven is to stare down the flames of hell until they burn our eyes. Even if we can’t reach far enough down into the abyss, we have to stand at its edge, unflinching, to bear witness for the doomed.

    I do what I can, in keeping a sanctuary for abused and abandoned pets. It dominates life (I’ll never have a vacation, and illness or injury don’t excuse me my duties), and I hope that by example people will be moved to compassion and kindness. I don’t know if it works that way. I hope it does.

    Life isn’t about our rights. It’s about our responsibilities to one another. Maybe it wears us down, maybe it’s a refining fire. I don’t know.

    They say it’s better to light a single candle than to curse the darkness. You just can’t ever let the candle go out.


    • Thank you for your wise words…which tie in with what I was reminded of today “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 Had to cop that on the chin πŸ˜‰

      If I’m honest though, it isn’t so much the ‘doing’ of the good, it’s the fact that it needs to be done. I’m tired of the fact that the world is in the state it’s in and that we continue to treat each other the way we do. Having said that, it is kinda biblical that it be this way, so again, I just have to cop that on the chin too!

      Thanks again, you’ve really encouraged me πŸ™‚


  9. Yes. I share your burden. These days, the news are full of negative news. Be it Syria’s gas assault, US government shutdown, fukushima nuclear water spillage, natural disasters hit here and there etc etc… nothing to cheer about. That’s how depressing our world has become.

    Although tired, I still strongly think that we should do our part for our planet. It might be small, but who knows with constant effort, it might roll into something impactful. Just like a simple blog post, you have created a simple awareness among readers. πŸ™‚


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