I recently heard an amazing woman speak and one of the things she threw in was that ‘we wear busyness like a badge of honour’. I’ve noticed an increase in this type of living, and have been there myself. And what is happening now it seems, is that everyone else expects you to be just as busy as they are, often starting conversations like this “How you going? Busy?” Not even giving you a chance to say otherwise, and if you do, you’re just a little (or a lot!) looked down on.
Many people are so very proud of themselves if they are busy and constantly tired.
I think busyness is a chronic disease of our society. And we have all, at one point or another, believed a lie: that we have no control over how busy we are.
Not being busy is a choice, just as being busy is a choice. Why do we choose to be so busy that we don’t have time for the simplest of life’s pleasures? Why are we so petrified of those blank white squares on the calendar? There are a myriad of reasons why but the one that I see most often is that our sense of self worth is wrongly tied up with what we do, instead of who we are.
When I meet someone for the first time, my favourite question is “What are your hobbies?” People are often surprised, expecting the standard ‘day job’ question. And sometimes, it’s amazing the conversations that follow, and sometimes it’s really sad when they have no answer.
I remember having to take some conscious steps, not too long ago in fact, to de-busy my life. Now, I have more time available to do what’s important to me, and best of all, I have time to spend with those I love most. And absolute best of all? I have the head space to be in the moment with those people and things.
I often remember a saying my dad used to say (and still does!) –
God made us human beings, not human doings.
Is your identity and self worth wrapped up in how busy you are? Are you brave enough to try and change it?