I don’t think of myself as a vain person; I suppose most people tend not to think bad things about themselves. You see, the whole image thing is a big issue for me, raising two girls as I am. With the rampant sexual objectification of women in our magazines, tv commercials, billboards and social media, it has become something I definitely have my radar up for.
And in the process, I have been especially conscious of whether I walk the talk. Do I worry about my hair? (Not overly) Do I always feel I need to wear makeup if going out or people coming to my house? (Mostly but I’m getting better at this one) Do I say I’m fat or obsess over my weight? (No, not really at all) Am I conscious generally of how I look? (Not usually, no) Do I get annoyed if an unflattering photo of me is taken? Weeeeellll, that leads to my point.
You see, I didn’t think so until recently.
I was at a girls weekend with friends. We took a photo of all of us, using my phone, and the photo, of me in particular, is, in my opinion, quite unflattering. One of these so called friends hi-jacked my phone and posted it to facebook, as you do.
I found I really didn’t like that. I was whinging again about it later, once others in the group started sharing it to their facebook walls etc, when one of the friends leaned quietly over to me and said gently “Susannah, do we need to have a little talk?”
And that was when I realised that I wasn’t as immune as I thought.
It was a great reminder to keep challenging myself because clearly I have some ways to go. And I think, it’s a constant battle as women to live without thought for how we look.
So, then, as I thought about writing this, I thought, well, it would really mean progress if I actually showed you the photo.
I’m still not okay with it (so maybe this is some sort of subconscious form of self-punishment?) but I figure if I can do this, then it will say something to my children about their self-images and, you never know, it just might encourage another woman to be less concerned with her image (it’s gotta be for something, right? Right???)
Anyway, here it is 🙂 And yes, I checked with the other delightful girls in the pic and they are AOK with it.